Out of control 24 year old sister
Dear Dr. Schwartz, My 24 year old sister recently broke up a 2 year relationship with her fiance who lived in Germany. Ever since the break up she\'s been acting rebelliously. She doesn\'t talk to me or my parents. She bought a TV and is always in her room. She goes out at least 3-4 times a week and comes back early next morning. She\'s very disrespectful, calling us names and talking about leaving the house. When we try to talk to her she simply says that she doesn\'t care about us and wants to be left alone. My mother has given her alternatives such as she can learn to respect and talk to us or she can leave the house. She said she will leave the house, the only problem with that is that it is unacceptable and seen very bad in our culture, and my mother is afraid that we will get a bad name in our community b/c of her behavior. She got fired from her job and now spends the majorit of her time in her room or out of the house. She also started gambling and we don\'t see any signs of alcohol or drug abuse (except when she goes out she\'s been drinking). Her behavior is causing us alot of stress especially on my parents. We are already struggling with finances and my parents with language problems. My siser simply says that she wants to do whatever she wants and be left alone. We are lost. We don\'t know what to do and how we can show her that her behavior is distrcutive not only to us but especially to herself. Please help.
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